I work for several different people and am lucky enough to like them all. Actually, luck has nothing to do with it. I have a very strict application process that is really more like an audition.
Anyway. One of my newer clients is absolutely dreamy to work for. I send him an idea and he sends it back with specific suggestions and changes. I make them. He tweaks them. I send a final. We high five.
The thing that is so dreamy about him is he knows, and asks for, exactly what he wants. I need to be more like that.
I grew up thinking it was wrong to ask for what you want. That it was somehow inappropriate. Indelicate.
Not asking for what you want makes it really really hard for everyone around you to know what you're getting at. Being proactive gets you a finished product faster.
There's a big difference between being specific and being pushy. I think I had those confused. My client is not pushy. He's very clear about what he wants.
Of course there's the problem of not knowing what you want. I like the idea of fine tuning what it is you're after and then setting the wheels in motion. Like my client, I have very specific goals I'd like to achieve. At the moment, though, they are nebulous and all start with conditional phrases like "if I could, I would..."
Which is silly. If I want to write for a specific magazine, it is not up to that magazine to figure it out - even if the editor of that magazine is sitting in his/her office right now saying, "you know what we need? Someone who writes about goldfish, the opera and noodle kugel."
Is there something you haven't asked for that would make someone's life easier if you just spoke up?